Thai Dating What is your take on the situation and do you have any advice on how I should proceed?
I read your book THAI Dating Code: The Guidebook for Getting to Know DECENT Thai Girls and found it very well-written and informative.
I am currently in a situation and could use some of your expertise and guidance. I am an American living in xx, and the object of my desires is in Bangkok and would just like some advice and cultural insights.
About two months ago, I was at a friend’s wedding in Bangkok. He and I went to business school, in America, together and he had invited me out to his wedding reception in Bangkok. He married a Thai celebrity and I would say that he and his circle are definitely HiSo. While at the wedding, I met girl that I liked very much. We chatted and seemed to hit it off, however we went our separate ways at the end of the night and I never thought I would see her again.
What is your take on the situation and do you have any advice on how I should proceed? I am a little worried about this Thai guy, but ultimately I cannot control that nor can I do anything from here in America. It might be easier for her to find a nice Thai guy from the same socioeconomic class, and I accept that. However, I want to fight for her and say that I tried to be with this girl. I have never felt the way I do with her about anyone and I find myself falling madly in love with her; she seemingly reciprocates. I am sending her a Valentine’s Day gift along with some small gifts for her parents. She is going to send me flowers here in NYC. In the end, I do not want to be in love with just a fantasy and I hope that she and I are working towards a future together.
Any advice on the situation would be greatly appreciated!
Thanks for your time,
Thanks for writing. Glad to hear that you like my book.
Well.. I have read through your story. I will make it very clear to you in bullet points.
- The girl definitely likes you a lot. To me, she seemed to be the one that chased after you since the beginning. If Thai girl doesn’t like you very very much, we wouldn’t do like the way she did, I have to say. It’s not even Thai way to do it, no offense.
- Her sister supports the idea of you and her sister being together, that’s also very obvious.
- I bet that her mother is also okay with you to be with her daughter.
As you said you feel that you are madly in love with her, so do the way you feel. No need to think about the other guy because you can’t control it anyway. But from what you have told me the story, I think at the moment the girl seems to like you more than the other guy. If Thai guy and she will be bf/gf, it would happen already. Thai guys in Hi society are mostly very playful and very picky. And also bear in mind that that Thai guy might be her gay friend. ?
Anyway, do not think too much. Just follow your heart in this case. I think if you tell her how you truly feel about her and figure out with her how to make the relationship works would be better for both of you.
Good luck. I wish you all the best.
Thank you for taking the time to read my story and respond. I appreciate the input especially from a Thai perspective since I talk to my friends with a western viewpoint it is nice to hear some advice from someone that shares her culture.
Thanks again. Your input and advice are greatly appreciated